Marriage is the institution where sex is supposed to be a regular thing but for the 20M Americans who are in sexless marriages it is not the case. Thus, if this is your current reality you should not be too worried. Nonetheless, ensure that you are not just complaining but rather take action. You are not supposed to be living with your lover as your roommate. When your marriage is sexless it means there is more than meets the eye and you need to work on that.
There are a lot of benefits you get when you are having sex regularly and if you are not you will be missing out on quite a lot. You can do several things in going back to where you used to be with your partner. A sex diary might be the last thing on your mind but it does help. You ought to pick a specific time or day to have sex. When everyone is aware of this, you will look forward to it. With the anticipation, it will increase your excitement.
The more you have sex the more you will want it which is why it should on your calendar. Booking a hotel room out of town or going abroad can help bring back romance. You just have to leave the house for something new. It should be quality time spent between the two of you. Get an off-day or two from work and find a sitter if you have kids. There are a lot of pressures from daily activities and that is one of the things you want to avoid. When you only have to concentrate on your partner you will connect. It is also a peaceful environment. You ought to remember how important communication is in a marriage. When there is good communication you can expect the relationship to be healthy. A sexless marriage is not the kind of a thing you would want to discuss but it is part of fixing it.
Do this outside the bedroom and discuss the matter fully. This discussion should not be confrontational and you have to listen to what your partner has to say. What you think might be the issue might not be. Once those are fixed then comes intimacy. It is important for you to keep doing this regularly so that you do not let sex issues go on for so long to the point where you stop having sex once again. When you are having healthy sex discussions it will be easy for your relationship to grow strong. Going to therapy together will be helpful too.